I’m not a fan of Christmas. There – I said it!
I love seeing my family, I love the laughter, I love seeing happy faces – but something about the rush of shopping, driving around to visit everyone, and pretending that nothing worries me makes my stress level bubble up.
A new Research Co. poll showed that 53% of Canadians expect the current holiday season to be “more fun than stressful” (-3 since a similar Research Co. poll conducted in December 2023), while 31% (+4) believe it will be “more stressful than fun.”
A recent poll by CPA Canada and BDO Debt Solutions suggests an unbelievable 94% of Canadians say they expect the holidays to cause financial stress. Nearly 40% of respondents reported they expect to feel more financially stressed this year, while 55% said they anticipate the same amount as last year. Additionally, 56% of respondents suggest they’ll rely on credit cards to cover their holiday expenses.
Let’s face it – 2024 has been a tough one for many people. That’s why I wanted to do this article. The high cost of living, politics and a myriad of other stressors have left people worn out. However, day to day worries don’t have to ruin the holidays. Take a breather, enjoy this special time with friends and family, and be kind to yourself. Here’s some tips for lifting your spirits this holiday season.
1.Turkey and mistletoe aren’t for everyone, so figure out what makes the holidays meaningful to you. Is it a time to connect with family and friends? Is it a time to step away from work and reenergize yourself? Is it a time to embrace your faith? Whatever brings you peace – do that.
- Do something special for someone else. Sadness comes from looking inward and dwelling on the things that you think are lacking in your life. If you turn your attention outward and see someone happy because of what you’ve done for them, you can’t help but feel a glow of happiness yourself. Note – this shouldn’t take the form of a ridiculously expensive gift. Thank tired retail workers for their efforts, volunteer in your community, bake cookies for your neighbour, help your other half with Christmas chores. You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.
- Practice gratitude. Full transparency – I live with chronic, severe anxiety and depression. Every day, I diligently remind myself of what I’m grateful for in my life. Always at the top of the list is my wonderful husband, but I also remind myself that I should be grateful that I started the day with a cup of coffee, I have hot water and can take a shower, I have clean clothes to wear etc. If you’re feeling down, mentally go through your day and ask yourself how you would feel if simple things like having a toothbrush or being able to walk were missing from your life. I guarantee you that you will feel better.
- Don’t be afraid to opt out of activities and gatherings. If you are in desperate need of down time, don’t feel obligated to attend every gathering or event you’re invited too. If it’s what you need, make time to plunk yourself in front of the TV and sip some eggnog. Self care should not stop at Christmas. The exact opposite is also true. If you’re in a funk, getting festive can lift your spirits. Put on an ugly Christmas sweater and hang out with family and friends.
- Have realistic expectations. Christmas doesn’t have to be a Hallmark movie. Families squabble, turkeys get burned and cats take down Christmas trees– it’s not the end of the world. You can make the choice to have a happy holiday even if it’s hitting the fan around you.
These tips all come experts who have treated my illness, but here’s a piece of advice from me. I cannot emphasize enough that you don’t have to be a helpless victim of the holiday blues. Happiness sometimes takes effort, but you absolutely can take charge of your mood because you are stronger than your negative thoughts. If you are feeling low, I understand where you’re coming from. I’ve been there too. Please, please reach out for help if you are in crisis. You’re not alone.
